Archive for May, 2011

How to Deal Effectively with Peer Pressure

Wednesday, May 25th, 2011

Try to do anything new and you’ll probably run into some sort of resistance in the form of peer pressure. For example, let’s say after a particularly nasty hangover you decide to quit drinking alcohol. All your friends and family will immediately praise your maturity and willpower, and forever only offer you non-alcoholic beverages, right? Well, maybe not…

Them: Hey, you want a drink?

You: Yea, I’ll take a glass of water, thanks.

Them: Don’t you want a beer or something?

You: No thanks, I’m trying to quit.

Them: Come on, it’s just one drink…

Now here’s where most personal development writers will say “you should stay away from such negative people—they are only trying to bring you down.” I think it’s exactly the opposite. (more…)

How Much Would You Pay for a New Habit?

Wednesday, May 18th, 2011

If you’re a regular reader of Beyond Growth, you already know that buying things isn’t self-help. If you aren’t doing the free or cheap version of something (e.g. pushups), than buying something expensive (e.g. a weight set) isn’t likely to magically bring about positive changes. The hard work remains either way.

Which brings me to a new $497, 28-day course “worth thousands of dollars” in changing habits called The Habit Course, from Leo Babauta of Zen Habits and friends. (Hat tip to @7breaths_.) Personally, I think the most important habit to create in your life is the habit of avoiding overpriced personal development products, of which there will always be more. The chances are for most people who purchase this or any other program, compliance will be very low, the forums are likely to be dead, and the added “bonuses” will likely lead to overload and analysis paralysis.

In addition, anything other than just working on your habit is not working on your habit, and fundamental changes simply take time. While it can be helpful to learn a few things about successfully forming habits, it is all too common to become an armchair expert in the theory of success without doing the actual work. Just as it would be ridiculous to eat a menu, confusing it for the meal, we consumers of personal development often eat up the inspiration instead of being nourished by the actions required to make real change—most of which are completely free. (more…)