Comments on: Good News: You Can’t Have it All

By: NLP and the myth of the quick fix « Living Well NLP

NLP and the myth of the quick fix « Living Well NLP — Fri, 26 Feb 2010 09:09:37 +0000

[...] also think we cause harm by allowing NLP practitioners and trainers to make ridiculous claims without being publicly criticized or held accountable for the results they actually [...]

By: Alexander

Alexander — Wed, 25 Nov 2009 23:30:59 +0000

Thanks, Duff. I'm not accustomed to agreeing (or at least not flat-out disagreeing) with so much of what one human writes. I'm really happy that you are writing.

Yes, the pursuit of perfection is poisonous. I'm changing tracks as we speak with regard to it – the use of Core Transformation has been helping me a great deal in accepting being perfectly imperfect, or something, and has highlighted for me just how much suffering is caused by a) the understanding that things are not as they would be if they were perfect and b) seeking to make everything (including ourselves) fit whatever vision of perfect we have.

Interestingly, however, I would not say that I have ceased looking for perfection. I think it's just a different perfection that I'm following now. It's a perfection of acceptance, a perfection of happiness. Is this more healthy, or just a paint job on a still-not-cool type of focus? I don't know, but it's certainly what I'm doing.

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Thu, 19 Nov 2009 22:39:42 +0000

I can’t help but put my two bits in here. I used to work for one of the secret teachers UNTIL I could no longer agree with the persons ethics. I discovered so much was going on behind my back and behind the backs of this persons clients that I was absolutely disgusted. This all was by someone who was claiming to be the guru of so much and a christian. I no longer buy anything to do with personal development in fact I treat it like a very serious drug addiction. For anyone caught in the web of charm and visualising, take a very hard look at yourself, your success and ask as many questions as you can think of from the person you are buying anything from. If you are criticised or do not like anything that you are being told start asking more questions because this is the point where you need to completely separate yourself. Full separation is the ONLY answer. I have seen far too much damage to too many lives as a result of one persons greed.

By: The Hollow Sink of Push-Button Enlightenment | Beyond Growth

The Hollow Sink of Push-Button Enlightenment | Beyond Growth — Fri, 13 Nov 2009 08:53:11 +0000

[...] a guarantee like that from a suspected homicidal guru and master of hyperbole, it’s no wonder Bill Harris has mysteriously removed James Arthur Ray’s testimonial [...]

By: dimsim

dimsim — Mon, 26 Oct 2009 04:27:13 +0000

"New-Wage/selfish-help/McSpirituality "

Excellent names and their time for accountability has come.

By: dimsim

dimsim — Mon, 26 Oct 2009 04:22:25 +0000

Most of these newage people who claim to be "teachers" or "gurus" or "masters" have given the titles to themselves and offer no qualifications whatsoever to back up anything that they say. They are usually just parroting what they have read in books or other peoples programs and presenting it themselves. They have no skills in dealing with peoples psychology but do a nlp course and claim to be masters of the world, well of everyones problems anyway. I challenged the australian guy once who frequently claimed to be a teacher and spruiked the same crap that all these people do. If you aren't wanting it all right now anyhow you can get it you are just plain stupid in their eyes and they don't want anything to do with you. You obviously fall out of their target audience for sucking more money out of you so you are no longer needed and you are made to feel like that too. If you question them they shoot another question back at you (the usual tactic that they think we haven't mastered yet) and they always say that you have not applied the material sufficiently to understand it. Just amazing that they've got away with it for so long but it seems that it took the death of several people to make it so obvious that it made the news. Its extremely sad and these people are extremely dangerous. They will stop at nothing to feed their greedy addiction and that is why they should be shut down immediately. I notice that the aussie guy is now moving from personal development into marketing and religion. I guess he will now claim to be an expert marketer and be following gods footsteps too. No matter what they claim they will never find real satisfaction in what they do because they know they are being fake and it shows.

By: You can find diamonds in the rough: Poem from the internet

You can find diamonds in the rough: Poem from the internet — Fri, 23 Oct 2009 05:01:41 +0000

[...] found this amazing poem in a comment on Beyond Growth by a fellow going by the name “manifest destiny.” If manifest destiny or anyone else [...]

By: Tyler Prete

Tyler Prete — Fri, 23 Oct 2009 04:38:22 +0000

This was amazing. I'll be honest, I thought you were just repeating some poem or song, but as I can't seem to find it, I'd say this might be one of the most insightful comments I've ever read

By: manifest destiny

manifest destiny — Thu, 22 Oct 2009 05:29:46 +0000

america seems to have an abundance of spiritual warriors
still playing cowboys and indians.
new wage yuppies promote genocide
desecrating others cultural ways.
atheists looking for a soul to buy,
ironic how these fools and their money soon part ways.
buy a yoga mat for a homeless being
so they too can find abundant growth and prosperity
and capitolize on others misfortunes or blatant ignorance
worship ben franklins and dead presidents
dream a green grandeur, green notes of hope
disposable income for a disposible culture
disposable yoga mats and plastic sweat lodges,
styrofoam cups full of child labor latte
the new age is here,
you can pay to be perfect
create wealth and harmony
buy your way into bliss
retreat forever in your money pit.
but, there is no escape from your green abyss
from the reality you helped to create.
from others cultural traditions you desecrate.
guru’s can’t cure your guilty cultural ills
your but an empty vessel to simply fill
a pepsi can, a red bull.
a new wage soul,
a curious consumer, a fools fool
a spiritual warrior
go to aghanistan and find yourself.
go to iraq and find yourself
go to pakistan and find yourself.
being an arrongant american, being yourself
learn what you are doing,learn what youve done
to the rest of the world, and native americans
no some plastic shaman who defines yourself
you pay for the seminar
you pay for the NY best seller
your happiness is abundance for yourself
get in your volvo or mercedes benz
eat sushi with your enlightened friends
tuna is nealy extinct you know.
i am sure your guru will tell you
when the supply gets low and valuable..
time to invest in what little is left
new wage abundance. shit for brains.

By: Victoria

Victoria — Wed, 21 Oct 2009 05:00:41 +0000

It is relatively easy to get people to obey a charismatic leader, especially when they have been made physically and mentally uncomfortable, fatigued, and "on the edge." These scary "mind control" techniques are used in military inductions and hazing rituals, and in other rites where the participants are being encouraged, or forced, to enter a state of identity change. In the bad old days of EST, people would be persuaded to suffer through great humiliation and physical stress, in order to break down their ego defenses and infuse them with a new identity which, of course, involved acceptance of the ideology of the leader. The "ultimate transformational experience" promised by Ray et al. includes extreme physically and emotionally traumatic experiences because that is what it takes to create conformity and obedience.